I vow to love you and like you

James and my story isn't much different from any other love story; Two people meet, they fall in love, he asks, she says yes, they get married, pop out some kids, and they live. 

We want to do this well, but how? 

When we got married we thought, we love each other this is going to be a blast... welp it wasn't, not at all. We were two selfish people that wanted to merge our lives without giving anything up. The goal was a good marriage, and we thought we had it while we were engaged and that living together would make it all the better. Y'all 7 years in and James and I had a conversation last week about liking each other. Loving him was marrying him, I will love him till I die (honest I will!) Liking him is what takes the work. We live one life in two different speeds. James is in the fast lane - he works full time, has an hour commute each way, just got his MBA, he's a father, a husband, his best friends are two hours away, and he has friends here in town. I am in a much more leisure lane - I run the household, I am a wife, a mom, and I am starting a blog, I feel like I get me time throughout the day for myself, and my friends are quality. 

So with these 2 different speeds how do we connect? We are trying to figure that out... that connection is the liking each other. Each day is different and each day throws new things at us but we are committed to enjoying marriage so the "like" part is very important. 

Where are we at in this? We check in, we go to bed at the same time, we pray for each other, we fight, and we parent as a team. We are in a new season and it feels like our time controls us, we are trying to find a new normal... Stay tuned.